Media personality and author Kikelomo Abati has shared a raw and courageous account of her two previous marriages that ended in divorce, revealing shocking details including unknowingly marrying a gay man and enduring abuse and infidelity in her second union.
In a candid interview on the popular daytime talk show The Morayo Show (Season 1, Episode 18), hosted by Morayo Afolabi-Brown and aired on February 3, 2026, Mrs. Abati spoke openly about her past, drawing from her personal experiences and her book Unbroken. The episode, which also featured her husband, veteran journalist Dr. Reuben Abati, focused on themes of love, healing, and second chances ahead of Valentine's Day.
Mrs. Abati described herself as "a woman who have been divorced twice," stressing that she initiated both separations. "With my two divorces, I was actually the one that filed... I am done. I've tried. I'm moving on," she said, highlighting her decision to prioritize her well-being over staying in toxic situations.
Her first marriage collapsed after a devastating discovery. "First of all, I married a gay person without me knowing. Let me put it out there," she revealed. She attributed her vulnerability to her own upbringing, explaining that her parents never lived together, leaving her without a model of stable partnership. This led her to trust declarations of love too readily. "Every guy that comes my way and you say you love me, I believe them," she admitted. She advised caution, noting that "love is not enough... sometimes they should marry themselves and not deceive the other people."
The second marriage proved even more traumatic. Mrs. Abati described her former husband as "the biggest philandering and abuser," citing serial infidelity and emotional abuse, with possible physical elements implied. She confessed to prolonging the relationship due to low self-esteem and a desperate need to preserve the family. "Sometimes the abuse come from a place of low self-esteem and desperation... I was desperate to hold the marriage down," she explained.
Despite the pain, Mrs. Abati emphasized empowerment and growth. She urged women to build self-worth and purpose before entering relationships: "You must have self-worth... it does not end with you. It ends with your daughter." She stressed the importance of clarity and boundaries, saying, "You must make sure that the man does not meet you without clarity... you must have purpose for your life."
She credited these lessons with leading her to her current marriage with Dr. Reuben Abati, where she found a partner who values her fully. "I had a man who saw my value... when I had clarity, when I had purpose," she shared.
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