After glow of their recent union last month, UK based Nigerian medical doctor Chioma Adanne has openly shared the foundation principles that define her marriage to Chris.
Far from conventional expectations rooted in Nigerian traditions, the couple chose a path of complete partnership from the start as no bride price was paid on her head, and during their traditional wedding, she did not kneel to give palm wine to her husband.
These deliberate choices set the tone for a relationship where both see themselves as true equals.
Chioma emphasized that her husband fully grasps the concept of inherent human equality on her Facebook post.
'I made sure I married someone who have enough sense to understand that every human on this earth have equal rights. We make all the decision together. We table it, discuss it, then either meet up in the middle or we go with the superior idea,' she detailed.
She described her partner as '...an adult, a partner, an equal. Any man who thinks that they are head/leader just because of a pen!s has a psychological issue called delusion of grandeur. I married an adult, a partner, an equal,' she added firmly.
Chris has entrusted Chioma with the final say on whether and how many children they will have. 'My husband/partner already said that the decision to have children or the number of children we would birth is mine to make, as any sensible man should. So, if I ever have any child(ren), just know that I decided to,' she explained.
'Other than carrying the pregnancy to term there is no other responsibility he won't carry out e.g bathing the kids, feeding them, changing diapers etc,' Chioma noted.
Household dynamics reflect the same balance. 'House chores is done by both of us or we outsource,' she declared.
Rejecting rigid 50 50 splits in favor of contributing according to ability, 'I am not doing 50:50 either. We all put in according to what we can,' she clarified.
Her surname choice remains entirely hers, 'Adding my partner/husband's surname to my name is solely my choice. I will add it if I want, I won't if I don't. My whole name will remain intact.'
Chioma has made infidelity a non negotiable boundary. 'There is definitely no room for cheating, as I've made it known. It is disrespectful and my body hates disrespect. Cheating is my deal breaker,' she stated clearly.
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