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One month to our wedding, I discovered we are both “AS” what should I do?

One month to our wedding, I discovered we are both "AS" what should I do-dailyfamily.ng
Love is said to be a wonderful thing that can ever happen to a person. Love makes the world go round, but how much do we truly know about this powerful emotion?
As beautiful as love is, it is capable of destroying so many things especially when it is difficult to let go of someone special to you.
One month to our wedding, I discovered we are both "AS" what should I do-dailyfamily.ng
One month to our wedding, I discovered we are both “AS” what should I do?
Below is a true love story of a young lady of 31-year-old whose life is currently in an unbelievable stage as what seemed to be her happiness is gradually turning to sadness.
Her story is published here for you to learn from and to also advise her on what to do. Happy reading
Hi,
I met Mike when I was in my final year in school (in one of the prestigious universities in the country), He is now a banker at one of the new generation banks in the country and I am a secretary at an Agricultural firm. 
We started the relationship as friends and it later graduated into a relationship which led to courtship.
We did our introduction last year (2017) November and are planning to wed next month (February) after four years of being together.
Everything has been fine not until early this month (January) when we were called by my parents’ pastor whose church we want to use for our wedding.
The pastor sat us (I and Mike) down in his office, we had so many discussions and also answered loads of questions from him. Among the questions he asked us was how ready we are to become one, we both looked at each other and gave him an assuring answer with smiles on our faces.
Just as we were rounding off the meeting, the man of God gave us a list of things to put in place in the church before our wedding day e.g fueling of the church power plant, decoration etc and then. 
Then he gave us a medical form to fill which can now be described as a symbol of destruction to our relationship and gradually turning our glorious day into a nightmare.
We filled the medical form with our details and he asked us to tick the recommended medical test stated on the form which includes Pregnancy test, HIV/AIDS and blood group/genotype test.  After filling the medical form, he called in a member of his church (an elderly woman) and introduced us to her as the intending couple of his church and handed over the filled medical form to her.
After glancing through the form she smiled and asked us when we will have chance to visit her health clinic (she owns a health clinic), Mike quickly whispered to my ear (maybe because he is the shy type) and answered the woman three days time.
Of course, Mike and I visited the clinic as promised and we did the test. 
Then she gave us another appointment, that is for the result.
Four days after, I received a phone call from my mum that their pastor wants to see me and Mike as soon as possible.
I quickly called Mike and we both went to the church to meet with the man of God. After welcoming us, he started with a bible verse, he read the scripture with a low and soft voice and started urging us to take things easy with ourselves as he said “God knows the best” he also said, “Thank God it is not too late”. 
Not too late for what? I broke the silence. “what is happening here? I screamed at him. Mike was trying to calm me down.
Then the pastor handed a letter to Mike, after glancing through it Mike put his two hands on his head and I quickly snatched the paper from him. I couldn’t believe my eyes with what I saw.
The paper contains the results of our medical test. Of course, I am not pregnant and neither did any of us have HIV/AIDS but the problem is our genotype.
We happened to be of the same genotype “AS”. I was short of words. How could this happen to me? why am I discovering this now? These are some of the questions running through my mind as tears were slowly dropping from my eyes.
The man of God encouraged us to end the relationship for the sake of our unborn children and to avoid stress and wasting of our hard-earned money in the future.
We both thanked him as we left his office in sadness. 
After leaving the Pastor’s offfice, we both went to another hospital the following day just to be sure of the results. To our utmost surprise, the results came out the same.
 
I informed my parents about it, at first they were shocked and then started thanking God that it is not too late to end the relationship in good fate but as for me I’m not pleased with their advice as I have vowed to spend the rest of my life with Mike.
Just few days ago, Mike called me on phone and asked me to join him in an eatery for a serious discussion. 
On getting there, I sat down with him and we couldn’t order for anything than water.
It is clearly written all over his face that he is not ready for a breakup. 
Mike later broke the silence with his plan of leaving the state with me for another and getting married there. 
He said since the church and our parents are not in support of us getting married, the best thing we can do is to leave the state, get married and start a new life.
When I asked him about the challenges that await us if we follow his plan, his reply was a shocking one and full of hope as he said: “Love conquers all”.
I’m confused now and don’t know what to do. 

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