Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: Seven Questions To Expect As A Guy From Your Babe’s Family
Marriage, of course, is one of the important things to achieve in life.
It is the dream of every young man who is of age to get married and start raising his family someday.
In Africa especially in Nigeria, marriage is an essential part of the nation’s culture, which is highly valued across a different social class that forms collections or groups of people. With this, the process of giving out the girl child to marriage is usually very serious.
As a man who is ready for marriage, one thing is to find the lucky girl and for her to accept your proposal but another thing is for her parents to accept you.
Parents are very caring and observant especially when it comes to the issue of their daughter’s marital choice, so they will want to watch salient things in their potential daughter’s suitor, even from the first day.
So, meeting your in-laws to be for the first time might seem to be challenging and scaring moment but don’t worry this article has got you covered.
Just like meeting anybody for the first time, a lot of people get nervous, especially when you have heard so much about them. So, it is either you are looking forward meeting them or you’re simply getting scared to.
Naturally, your mind will keep troubling itself on many things, like what if they don’t like my face or my hometown.
So, you have to come prepared because whatever you say on first meeting day or how you look, can either make or mar you thereon. Make sure you look good and responsible on your first meeting with them (very important).
Meeting your in-laws to be in Nigeria is just like going for a job interview, you must go prepared but be true and real.
Below are the common questions to expect from your in-laws to be irrespective of their tribe.
#1 What is your name young man?
This question is the first question to expect from them especially if they don’t know you before. Be sure to face this question even when their daughter has told them a lot about you.
Kindly answer them with calmness and polite tone. Please, don’t give them your nickname. Your village people will not get you (lol).
#2 Where are you from?
What they want to know here is not your residential address but your State and hometown.
This is to help them to know you well and to expand their searchlight especially if they are tribalistic people. But it is just another piece of information they need to know about you.
So, relax your mind and answer the question telling them everything they need to know. Just pray you are not from the tribe they don’t want their children to marry from (lol).
#3 Who are your parents?
This is another golden question you should be expecting especially when they don’t know your parents before.
However, there is nothing to be afraid of except if you are from a wicked family. Just tell them their names and titles if any. They might also want to know if they (your parents) are together or separated, please don’t see this as an insult, just answer them and if any of your biological parents is late tell them. Remember no one wants to give his/her daughter to a stranger to marry.
#4 What religion do you practice?
Of course, her parents will want to know your religion. This is to let them know if you are godly and a God-fearing man. Telling them your religion can also lead to another question like which denomination do you worship with, who is your pastor and what is your position or what department do you belong in your church if you are a Christian.
Parents want to know you believe in God, and some will appreciate you more if you belong to the same faith why some careless.
#5 What do you do for a living?
This is the other very important question. As we all know that marrying a wife is not that hard, if not for the financial burden that comes with it. So, this helps parents to know where they’re pushing their daughter to. Even if you have no serious thing you are doing for a living or you are believing God for a new job, you must say something.
But remember as a responsible man you must have a job or something that is bringing you income either daily or monthly (legit) before thing about marriage.
So, be free to answer the question and be real. Don’t say what you are not.
#6 How did you guys meet?
You must also be ready for this question. It gives the lady’s parents the idea of what brought you together. May be fun, friendship, academics, business, religious activities etc. Just reply this with wisdom.
Don’t forget your answer to this question may lead to another similar question like “for how long have you been seeing each other?”
Just be calm and answer the question. But note, be serious when answering these questions, they are very sensitive questions.
#7 Young man what is your plan and why are you here?
This question is usually asked by the lady’s father, uncle, elder brother or any male relative around.
The question is a sensitive one to know the level of your seriousness, readiness and plans.
Of course, they know why you are here but just need to hear it from you.
Please, make sure you answer this question with all seriousness and don’t beat around the bush. Don’t disgrace your ancestors (lol).
Here is another thing you must know, don’t go with anybody on your first visit. Go along with your girl.
It is not introduction, don’t go there with your father, uncles, friends or your ancestors (lol).