By Odunewu Segun
Every single lady looks forward to that day when the dream man will pose that million dollar question- ‘Will you be my wife’.
However, you have to satisfy your conscience for the reasons you choose to say yes to him. If your reasons aren’t good enough then you should know that he isn’t your man but like the fifth tip pointed out, if your feelings are genuine then you should give it a go.
Don’t get lured into marriage for the wrong reasons, they won’t last; you would probably get tired of them at a point; marriage is supposed to be a lifetime event, if you get married for the wrong reasons then at some point it would eventually tell.
You might be wondering if you should think all these things through within a split second before saying yes; that really shouldn’t be the case; all these factors should be evaluated while the relationship is still ongoing, you don’t have to wait till he brings out a ring.
One of the important question that we should ask before taking that plunge is: is that guy really true to you? You have to be sure the man you are about saying yes to, is honest with you, with his words and his actions. If he’s deceitful to you in the course of the relationship then you shouldn’t expect anything better when you bear his name.
His temperament is also key. A man’s temperament is very important; if he can’t control his anger then one person would suffer severely from it, and that is you. Don’t get married to a man that would turn you to his punching bag, it isn’t worth the hassle. If he can’t control his temper then you are at risk of coming into harm’s way; domestic violence is no fun.
Marriage is different from a relationship; you might be ready for a relationship but you might not be ready for marriage; to have a successful marriage, you should be willing to take a lot of sacrifices and if you aren’t ready for those sacrifices then you absolutely aren’t ready for marriage.
Your feelings towards your suitor is also important. You have to be sure you actually love that man; there is no negotiating this, if you don’t love him then there should be no need. Marriage is no small affair; time would come when the chips would be so down and the only thing that would keep you going is your love for him; so if the love isn’t real then the marriage won’t last.