A Pastor friend called me a few weeks ago from Lekki to tell me about a Couple under him who needed Counsel and help. I told them to see me a few days later.
I discovered they’ve been fighting seriously for weeks. I discussed with them and they left. A few days later the Man was back looking for financial Help to pay rent, I asked him how much is his rent per year, guess what he said.
4.5 Million Naira for the office, 4 Million Naira for his house.
I told him pointedly, “you are not having a Financial problem but a mental one” that is too harsh for a counsellor to say, but in my anger with him, that is what I said, I thought he will get angry, but he was not, I have to apologize to him, but he said he was not hurt but only receive a wake up call.
We sat down to check his income, his income was too low compared to the life he intends to live, the reason why he is staying in Lekki phase one was to just to prove to people he has ‘arrived’ no economic gain from it. He drives a big car to match up with his neighbors, send his Children to Primary school around there where he pays fees in Dollars, security fees in the neighborhood is 30,000 every Month, food is much more expensive than in Ketu where he was with his wife before moving to Lekki.
He said to me, I think you are right, mental problem is involved in this, if not how did I find myself in this foolishness, I was not using my brain at all.
He paid 10 Million Naira in rent for two years with commissions, legal fees and other attachments when he was moving to that house three years ago, today he is still a tenant if he invest that amount in landed property that period around Mowe or Ikorodu he will be a Landlord today.
Hi there, let learn to think right, who are you trying to impress with your lifestyle? Are they really impress or oppress, No! they are not, they are not IMPRESS or OPPRESS, it is only your pocket that is OPPRESSED.
Let everybody think and act right. Why are you buying things you don’t really need to oppress people you don’t like? Its madness to buy cloth that worth N120,000, when your salary is N60,000, by the time you finish paying in six month time, the cloth is faded, shoe is broken, people you want to hurt are still living their lives. Wise up guys, rise up ladies, life is not enjoyed in foolishness.