Friendships have a huge impact on our lives. The fact remains that we cannot live successfully without the help of friends. No wonder the popular saying “no man is an island” cannot be disregarded as untrue.
We all need true friendships with good people because of its tremendous benefits. Good friends relieve stress, provide comfort and joy, prevent loneliness and isolation, and even strengthen your physical health.
However, such does not happen by chance but by a conscious effort. How people perceive you will go a long way in establishing a connection and gaining good people as friends.
Here are a few tips on how to win and keep good and trustworthy people as friends:
Love others sacrificially.
On what basis do you choose your friends? Are you loyal or a friend interested in benefits? If you choose friends based only on selfish interest or what they have to offer, you will rarely win good people and keep them as friends. Unfortunately, this is the case with most people in the world today. However, you must in humility, love sacrificially by valuing your friend’s needs above your own. By doing so, you will be highly valued and seen as dependable and trustworthy.
Treat others well.
The Bible teaches that we should treat others the way we want to be treated (Matthew 7:12). Just as we want to be treated well by people, we should ensure to do same. Treat others with respect and kindness; Express a sincere interest in others and what they are doing; be friendly! By treating others well, you make them feel welcomed and appreciated, helping them feel their efforts are worthwhile.
Don’t malign others.
There is a saying that “words are really powerful and can hurt certainly”. When you malign someone for whatever reason, it is well intentioned to cause harm. Unfortunately, some people malign others to feel good about themselves by comparison. However, by not maligning others, you are showing to them that you are not judgemental. It also shows that you recognise their differences. In the process, you win people and gain good friends because they see you as reliable.
Disagree with grace.
In life, disagreement is inevitable and it’s a fact. To disagree with grace means to disagree well and the right way. Whenever you are in this situation, do not bad mouth your friends but be emotionally intelligent about whoever you are in disagreement with. In other words, disagree to agree.
Reconciliation involves repentance and forgiveness. By seeking reconciliation, it shows that you value the friendship. It also shows that you are humble and do not regard yourself as superior to others.
Being peaceful means that you are open, honest and genuine to those you call your friends. It also means that you are selfless, kind-hearted, and always willing to help others. A peaceful person will definitely attract true friendship. Embrace peace today.