How to deal with a breakup

How to deal with a breakup

Breakups can be torturous, the feeling of having your heart broken is a solid “absolutely terrible.” Many of us have here at some point, and there is a lingering question of how to get over a broken heart.

That feeling when someone you love so much, tells you he/she is no longer interested. You look back at all the promises and times shared. You really never saw it coming.

Even if the relationship lasted just two weeks or five years, breakups leave us feeling heartbroken, lost and even ill (physically).

How to deal with a breakup
How to deal with a breakup

There are no quickfire ways to avoid heartbreak after a heartbreak (except you’re an insensitive robot), there are no immediate solutions, but since you cant around the hurt, there are ways to go about it—even when you might feel as you might never be happy ever again.

“The first thing you need to anticipate, no matter where you are in the process, is that there is a grieving [period]. There is a sense of abandonment, there is a sense of terror about the future, there is a disappointment… There is a process of going from us back to me.” Sheri Meyers

Read Also: Humour – Key to a fruitful relationship

Here, we share some advice on how to deal with a breakup.

  1. Say it, write it, share it:

How to deal with a breakup: Say it, write it, share it
How to deal with a breakup: Say it, write it, share it

Breakups leave us with a lot of unpleasant feelings as a natural impulse to the situation, we seem to want to avoid our emotions and these will eventually stop you from getting past them.

There are lots of after-emotions that comes with a breakup situation like — anger, sadness, loneliness, feelings of rejection and uncertainty about the future — and it’s important to stare them head-on. Especially in the early stages of a breakup, try to let yourself feel what you feel, without judgment.

  • Put down your feelings in writing.
  • Allow yourself to shed a tear or two.
  • Share your state of mind to a non-judgemental platform on social media, school or religious organization (church).
  • Talk to a therapist, a close friend or even parents as this can help you during the healing process and gain clarity on why the relationship never worked out and why you’ll be better off without your ex.

“You’ve gotta feel,” says Meyers. “If you feel like crying, cry. If you’re pushing your feelings down, they’re just going to make you calloused or afraid.”

Read Also: Workplace Pressure- What is it about? (Part 1)

2. Love yourself, Eat Bananas:

This is opposed to the socially inclined ‘love yourself’ used on Social Media, as this refers to the fact that you have to begin to give yourself time to heal in the sense of nutrition and diet.

A “breakup diet” might seem a bright idea — we think that pretending to look better after a break-up is a perfect way to get revenge on that ex — but in reality, you’re punishing yourself, bringing back that feeling of rejection. (You’re also encouraging yourself to have an unhealthy appetite for junk food).

Take your time with your diet, eat nourishing foods that are high in fibre, protein and nutrients to boost your mood and energy.

How to deal with a breakup: a diet of vegetables and most all 'Bananas' (the happy fruit)would do you a lot good.
How to deal with a breakup: a diet of vegetables and most all ‘Bananas’ (the happy fruit)would do you a lot good.

After a breakup, our bodies might require a lot of sugary food because it needs it to fuel the anger and spite that we might feel inside. At this period, a diet of vegetables and most all ‘Bananas’ (the happy fruit)would do you a lot good.

“avoid mindless eating and try not to turn food into a coping mechanism. Don’t worry about indulging a little, but try not to keep too much junk food around, as foods that are high in fat, sugar and salt can actually contribute to higher levels of the stress hormone cortisol.”

Read Also: Workplace Pressure – Effects of Workplace pressure

3. Move that body:

During the period of grieving over a breakup, the body doesn’t want to do much. It just wants to sit around, do nothing but grieve and feel pitiful. You mustn’t let this be the case.

Move that body
Move that body: but make sure you are accompanied by friends, an early-morning jogs in the park- best accompanied by friends.

Exercising might be the last activity you want to engage in, but simply getting out of your feelings and focus your attention on your body can be helpful.

“After a breakup, we tend to want to sit and cuddle and huddle and cry, and talk to our girlfriends and feel bad about ourselves,” 

“So getting out and moving is really essential because it’s almost the opposite of what we feel like doing, which is shutting down and feeling sorry for ourselves.”

Do not use the exercise as a route for punishing yourself but make sure you are accompanied by friends, an early-morning jogs in the park, at the gym with a trainer to supervise — best accompanied by friends.

4. Be thankful:
You must take some time out to show gratitude for everything you have and things you’ve been able to accomplish all by yourself. This gives you a sense of belonging and strength.

How to deal with a breakup : Be thankful
How to deal with a breakup: Be thankful
It might be difficult to think of things you’re grateful for, but as you continue, the process would become blissful. (you might end up thankful that you don’t have to deal with your ex’s bad habits!)

5. Take your time:

How to deal with a breakup : Take your time
How to deal with a breakup: Take your time

Most people find it tempting to cool off the pain of a breakup by going into another new relationship. It’s a dangerous adventure, “rebounding” as it’s called is not wise, as it can negatively impact your new relationship and also lead you into another wrong person and future heartbreak. It’s an act of desperation.

Afford yourself enough time to grieve and fully put your emotions in order before moving on. This defers from person to person.

Also:

  • Avoid depressing songs, movies or books that feed your poor mood, do more dancing and outdoor activities.
  • Bad mouthing your ex, isn’t the way to go also. It just gives the impression that you’re just been hateful and spiteful.
  • Never call or text him/her asking them why they left you. Doing this gives them the power to control and manipulate your emotions. You might end up been used.

 

 

Read Also: Exciting Places to buy Wedding Gowns in Lagos

Kindly follow us on: 

Twitter

Instagram

 

Comments

comments

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published.

You may also like

Politics

JUST IN: Buhari opens Ministers’ performance retreat amid ‘sack’ speculations

post-image

President Muhammadu Buhari opened a two-day mid-term ministerial performance review retreat in Abuja on Monday, amid reports that more of his ministers will be sacked for poor performance.

The yearly retreat, which is attended by Ministers, Permanent Secretaries, and other top government officials, is held to evaluate the administration’s top functionaries’ performance.

President Buhari announced the dismissal of two of his ministers during the weekly Federal Executive Council (FEC) meeting on September 1.
They were the Ministers of Power, Engr. Saleh Mamman, and Agriculture and Rural Development, Alhaji Sabo Nanono, at the time, informing others that the action would be ongoing.

According to presidency sources, the President may be waiting for the results of the continuing review process before taking action, which may include removing more of his cabinet members whose performance and conduct do not satisfy the administration’s standards.

President Buhari said he would stay for the entire two-day performance review retreat at…

Comments

comments

Read More
Culture and traditional lifestyle Travel

5 Common Myths That Are Untrue About Edo People

post-image

5 Common Myths That Are Untrue About Edo People

Edo state, affectionately known as the “heartbeat of the nation,” has a slew of prejudices that need to be debunked.

5 Common Myths That Are Untrue About Edo People
5 Common Myths That Are Untrue About Edo People

Here are 5 common myths that are untrue about the Edo people.

Edo state, with an estimated population of 8 million people, is a state rich in culture, history, and tradition.

Edo state is home to the Oba of Benin and has produced numerous notable Nigerians, both dead and alive. There are, however, a lot of misconceptions regarding the state.

Read Also: The things you never knew about Fulani Festival; The Sharo

There are a plethora of activities…

Comments

comments

Read More
Lifestyle Travel

6 tips for survival in the city of Lagos

post-image

6 tips for survival in the city of Lagos

6 tips for survival in the city of Lagos
6 tips for survival in the city of Lagos

Surviving in Lagos is a challenging task. It is a place of great appeal to both people wanting to relocate to Lagos and those who already live and work there.

Anyone who succeeds in Lagos is widely regarded to be successful everywhere in the world. Lagos is the country’s most populous metropolis and a major commercial hub.

In a city like Lagos, knowing how to climb through and make life meaningful is essential. Without further ado, here are 6 tips for survival in the city of Lagos, these are key strategies for surviving Lagos’s madness:

Read Also: 5 Places where you can buy a pet in Lagos

6. Socialise and meet people with caution:

You have to be very careful…

Comments

comments

Read More
Pets and animals Travel

6 interesting places you must visit in Jos

post-image

6 interesting places you must visit in Jos

Jos, the city located on the Jos Plateau, during British colonial rule, Jos was very important to the mining industry and is presently the trading hub of the state and country at large as commercial activities are on the increase steady.

The beautiful city has cool weather like that of Europe, with the presence of mountains and hills making it possible. Sometimes ice-hailstones fall during the rainy season because of the cooler temperatures at high altitudes.

These cooler temperatures made Jos the favourite holiday location for tourists from the past colonial times to the present day tourists and visitors of the city.

So in case, you’re thinking of visiting the City of Jos anytime soon or in the future, Dailyfamily provides 6 interesting places you must visit in Jos.

Read Also: The things you…

Comments

comments

Read More
Education Radom news Travel

Top 5 Markets in Lagos – you need to visit them

post-image

Top 5 Markets in Lagos – you need to visit them

 

Top 5 Markets in Lagos - you need to visit them
Top 5 Markets in Lagos – you need to visit them

Any society that is meant for humans to habitat, must have a marketplace as a crucial social amenity. The marketplace is far from just a place to buy and sell but also a place that attracts tourists and social gathering of various kinds of people for several reasons.

We have a lot of unique markets in Lagos known for unique reasons like the Computer Village in Ikeja is known for ICT appliances and the Oshodi market is known for foodstuff and clothing.

Read Also: Nigeria to hoist world’s largest flag

Here are the top 5 markets in the city of Lagos:

1. Balogun…

Comments

comments

Read More
Business

Insecurity: CBN Governor, Godwin Emefiele releases shocking statement on Nigeria’s Economy

post-image

Governor of the Central Bank of Nigeria, CBN, Godwin Emefiele has pointed out that the country’s current economy cannot grow.

Emefiele disclosed that the nation’s economy cannot grow due to the current level of insecurity.

The CBN boss spoke at the end of a two-day monetary policy committee meeting in Abuja on Tuesday.

According to Emefiele: “If you want an economy to grow, the level of insecurity must be low because if there is a high level of insecurity like what we see today, the economy will suffer.”

Read Also: Buhari reveals why he paid $469m for Tucano aircraft ahead of National Assembly approval

He also disclosed that Nigeria will receive 12 fighter jets from the United States, US, to fight insecurity in July.

The CBN boss said the arrival of the jets followed a pact signed between the…

Comments

comments

Read More
Business

See 5 Small Businesses You Can Start With ₦10,000 In Nigeria

post-image

Despite the economic downturn, Nigerians are known to be very industrious people wherever they are found as they are very proud of this unique trait. With so many ideas floating around the table, you would think that everyone is an entrepreneur but the sad reality is there is little or no capital to make these ideas become real.

What many may not know is that there are some businesses you can start with as little as ten thousand naira or less. Let’s take a look at a few of these lucrative businesses you could start with such a small amount

1.    Fast Food Business

This is an evergreen business for every season. It’s always in demand.

People need…

Comments

comments

Read More