A well-known psychologist says children need more rules than parents’ affection
A respected American psychologist specializing in child education has recently argued that children need more rules than caring and affection.
Clearly, what Lisa Damour advocates is that children need demonstrations of love and affection from their parents to become safe and happy adults, but they also need discipline to learn how to build a happy life that will lead them to success.
It is important to emphasize that discipline is a great demonstration of love, and for parents to learn to say no instead of the simple yes, it is also a moment of learning, after all, keeping the no for the children requires strength and discipline.
Some common rules may help children feel more secure from their infancy:
Make rules as long as your children are small, such as: right time to sleep, wake up, brush after meals, wake up and before bedtime and until the right time to do the homework.
Organize their day with the most important things to help with the development of the children.
Providing an opportunity for all family members to participate in the care of the home is also a family rule that teaches the value of work to the little ones. According to the age of each one, establish small daily tasks in the organization of the house.
Do not forget to establish the consequences that will be applied to unfulfilled rules, they are also important and need to be communicated to children. Remember that hitting does not educate! You can establish punishments, but never aggression.
Also, make sure you allow time for the pleasurable activities with your children. Playing with them is a unique moment in which you can meet and still strengthen the union. This time is also quite appropriate to teach some values of life.
Take advantage of these moments to establish a trusting relationship with them, so that whenever you need answers or help you will know who to turn to, even when they are adults.
Do not forget that the education of children is the sole and exclusive responsibility of parents, it is they who must teach right and wrong. There is no way to delegate the education of children to third parties, such as the school, the nanny or the church.
Educating children is not like a cake recipe, it is necessary to use empathy, love, and persistence, to know them, to lead them and to respect them, this is the formula for success.
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