9 Ways to Soothe the Pain of Loss
If we stop to think we will realize that the greatest fear that many people have in life is not to die, but to lose someone dear.
Knowing how to live in mourning without sublimating the sense of loss and keeping the memory of that person alive are some of the ways to make that phase lighter.
Keep reading and check out our tips for facing the pain and overcome this moment of suffering.
1. Do not move away from people
When the pain we feel is so strong and devastating, it seems natural to want isolation.
However, in addition to this attitude causing concern in loved ones is also harmful for the individual.
If the person who is shaken by pain is always alone will not think of other subjects than this, so it is important to surround yourself with other people, other stories and new joys.
2. Pain has no time limit
Going through the grieving process is complicated, we must warn that even striving and having results of resocialization and reconstruction of life the pain will continue to exist.
Do not feel guilty for feeling sad even though you are making progress in your life resume.
Pain has no time limit and the people around you will understand that some days will be heavier than others. Do not cover yourself about it.
Talking about what happened helps ease the pain of loss no matter how much it seems otherwise. If you do not talk about something, it internalizes that feeling and it increases considerably.
Some people have difficulty expressing their feelings in words, in which case they should look for their way of venting.
It is possible to choose only one listener, to write about what happened, to paint, to cry, but always to vent feelings.
4. Accept happiness
Although the longing for the departed loved one remains forever, know that you deserve to be happy and should not feel guilty when that time comes.
Life is not like a novel in which one chooses between suffering and happiness, we are always living a range of these moments.
So being happy does not erase how important that person is to you.
A person who loved you in life would never want your unhappiness.
5. Learn to leave the saved loss when needed
At the beginning of the grieving process, to ease the pain of loss, it is important to talk about it so that it integrates the reality of the individual.
However, at some point the person who is going through this phase needs to leave the subject a little still so he can move on.
If you feel this is the time to be silent about loss talk to your family members about it and explain that you do not want to talk about it at this time. Respecting your times is key to overcoming loss.
6. Keep the memory of good times
Having recorded the best moments lived with the person in memory you keep them close for good.
Keeping someone’s memory alive does not mean not changing her bedroom or donating clothes, it has nothing to do with material goods, but rather keeping in her memory the smile given after a joke, the day the beach was put together and so on.
Remembering the loved one at some point will give joy and not pain.
7. Take it easy to resume your life.
People believe they should resume their lives soon after the loss to reduce the pain they are feeling, but this is not the best.
Those who lose loved ones need to live their mourning time and only then return to their routine slowly. Try to leave activities at a slower pace in the first few weeks.
The bustle of resuming your life will not help lessen the pain of loss will only increase the feeling of emptiness.
8. Crying is not weakness
Do not hold back the tears, if they come, let them roll, for the crying is a physical way of spreading the feelings.
Think of your eyes pouring out when you are overflowing inwardly.
To show feelings is never a sign of weakness, to keep to oneself the weeping and sorrow only increase the burden that loss brings. Do not increase the weight you need to carry.
9. Seek expert help
If you can not get out of the numb state in which the pain has put you, specialized help may be necessary.
Doing therapy is very good to ease the pain of loss and to get to know yourself better.
Know that it is not easy to overcome a moment like this alone so it is not a sign of inability to need to talk to a specialist.
Remember that the loved one would like to see you happy!
Article by Akinbode Toluleke check up Twitter on taakinbode
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