9 Ways to Effectively Argue with your Partner
I know you are always boiling within with anger anytime your partner offends you. And often time, you find it difficult to express your grievances to your partner.
As a result of this, you bottle all the shortcomings of your partner in your heart, patiently waiting for the day that your cup of anger will overflow, and then, you vent all your anger on your partner.
But wait a minute, before you develop a storehouse of past offences, check out these nine (9) ways to effectively argue with your partner. So that next time you are angry over the action of your partner, you can settle the issues constructively without it degenerating into something else.
- Manage your thoughts—your thought is powerful. You must be able to control what you think through about an issue before you begin on the endless journey of an argument. Before you judge your partner ask yourself why a reasonable, rational and decent person would do what your partner is doing.
- Affirm before you complain
- Don’t start by diving into the issue. Let your partner know you respect and care for them first
- Start with the facts
- Strip out the accusatory, judgmental and inflammatory language
- Be tentative but honest
- Having laid out the facts, tell your partner why you’re concerned. But don’t do it as an accusation: share it as an opinion
- Invite dialogue
- If you’re open to hearing your partner’s view, they’ll be more open to yours