9 Factors That Affects Lovemaking In Marriage
-Bisi Adewale
Sex is an integral part of marriage. The problem with lovemaking will definitely affect every other aspect of marriage and family life. Get to know these 9 factors that affect lovemaking in marriage and take the right step to address it.
- Ignorance– Most couples know close to nothing about lovemaking, all they know is sex, no improvement, no progress; this ultimately leads to boredom in the bedroom, and a “grudge match” every night.
- Impatience- Most men are impatient in the bedroom, they are like the tipper driver, all they do is “drop and go”, no kissing, no love, no foreplay, they are like carpenters. They have no passion for the nail, no emotion for the wood. All they do is to pick the “hammer” and hit “gbo, gbo, gbo” in few seconds they have finished, the job is done. They roll to the other side of the bed and snore into the night leaving the poor women totally frustrated and unfulfilled.
- Lack of Privacy- Absence of privacy can also affect your sex life; couples that must wait for the grown-up children who stay with them in the same room to sleep before they make love, will find sex difficult.
- Selfishness- Most people go to bed with the mind of what to get “Consumer mentality”, instead of what to give, in the process nobody gets anything.
- Wrong Conception- the Wrong notion of sex can also destroy sex. Thinking that sex is a duty or that sex must not take place on certain days of the week or certain periods of the day can destroy your sex life.
- Separation of Rooms- Couples that stay in different rooms will have what we call “room barriers” in their sex life.
- Lack of Communication- Most couples don’t talk about their sex life, they bottle their desires and hide their aspirations, thereby leaving them unmet and unfulfilled. This ultimately leads to frustration.
- Types of Jobs- There are jobs that make the husband and wife resume to bed at different periods of the day. Jobs that take one of them away from home for weeks and jobs that are physically demanding that make the man or the woman exhausted by the time they return home in the night can destroy sex life.
Proxy Matrimony- The husband and wife that stays away from each other in different towns or countries will have zero sex life, which can encourage sexual immorality
