9 Dangerous Relationship You Must Avoid At All Cost
-By Bisi Adewale
And as many as walk according to this rule, peace be on them, and mercy, and upon the Israel of God (Galatians 6:16 KJV)
If you want a great marriage, you must build a great relationship by walking according to divine rules.
If you follow divine rules, you will need to avoid the following relationship like plagues.
1) GODLESS RELATIONSHIP
A relationship that does not put God into consideration at all. You start the way you like with anybody
that catches your fancy and run it the way you like.
Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the Lord keep the city, the
watchman waketh but in vain (Psalms 127:1 KJV).
2) MISSIONARY RELATIONSHIP
A relationship with an unbeliever with the aim of converting him when you eventually marry him is a
missionary relationship that will lead to a very terrible marriage. That is why the Bible warns us:
‘’Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with
unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with
Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? And what agreement hath the temple of
God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and
walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people (2 Corinthians 6:14-16).
3) SEX BASED OR PORN ACTRESS RELATIONSHIP
Flee fornication. ”Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price:therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s (1 Corinthians 6:18-20 KJV)”.
American Psychological Association’s Journal of Family Psychology states that couples “who wait until marriage to have sex” report:
— higher marriage satisfaction (20% higher)
— better communication patterns (12% better)
— less consideration of divorce (22% lower)
— better sexual quality (15% better) than those who started having sex early in their dating.
If you go into marriage just because you feel the person is good in bed or look sexy and romantic, you
are going to regret it later, because though sex is very important in marriage, it is an unreliable
foundation for it.
4) REBOUND RELATIONSHIP
Rebound relationship involves the following:
— Going into a new relationship quickly because of disappointment or death of a partner
— Going into a relationship to fight failure or disappointment in academic, business or any other area
— Going into a relationship to fight sorrow because of the death of a friend, parent, siblings and so on.
If such a relationship leads to marriage, it can end in a disaster as it did not start in love but in
emotional challenges that were not addressed.
5) NABAL RELATIONSHIP
When you join yourself to a rich, academically sound fellow or lady who is bankrupt in character,
manner and attitude and you pretend all is well or that the person will change after your marriage, you
are in a Nabal relationship. Abigail joined herself to Nabal who was very rich but bankrupt in character
and she ended with a terrible and difficult marriage.
‘’And there was a man in Maon, whose possessions were in Carmel; and the man was very great, and
he had three thousand sheep, and a thousand goats: and he was shearing his sheep in Carmel. Now
the name of the man was Nabal; and the name of his wife Abigail: and she was a woman of good
understanding, and of a beautiful countenance: but the man was churlish and evil in his doings; and
he was of the house of Caleb’’ (1 Samuel 25:2-3 KJV).
6) VISA AND PASSPORT RELATIONSHIP
He promises to assist you to travel abroad and, on the basis of that you promise to marry him. Note
that if you must marry somebody you never love just because you want American or UK visa, you will
end up regretting all your life. Your help is not from abroad but from above.
‘’I will lift up mine eyes unto the hills, from whence cometh my help. My help cometh from the Lord,
which made heaven and earth’’ (Psalms 121:1-2 KJV).
7) ONE WAY TRAFFIC RELATIONSHIP
You are going out with somebody that never loves you; you know it. You can see, feel it, but you don’t
really care about that because you want marriage at all cost, then you are preparing yourself for a
very turbulent and regrettable marriage.
‘’He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me was love’’ (Song of Solomon 2:4
8) CANOPY RELATIONSHIP
This is an undefined relationship. You are very much closed to the man, but there is never a
commitment or any intention towards marriage. Really, you are going steady; he is all over you, giving
you gifts, visiting you but he is not talking about the future. He is not planning to take you to his
mentor, pastor or parents. He introduces you only as his friend and you foolishly play along, growing
older every day. That is unwise. Let all your relationship be defined; know your stand with him; if you
just play along, you will be shocked one day when you see his wedding card. That shock will be too
much to bear.
9) SELECTION RELATIONSHIP
You have set criteria your intended partner must satisfy: university degrees; tall, ability to sing; or a
native of your village; as a woman, she must be able to cat walk with a gorgeous sexy body, pointed
nose, fair completion and a good salary. You hunt for the man or woman that fits into this description.
In this case, you have drawn up a selection relationship.
Selection relationship is always based on deceit and selfishness. People who find themselves in it end up with stories of woes.