5 Things You Should Know When Dating A Highly Sensitive Person
Highly sensitive persons/people, or HSPs for short, have heightened perceptions of life, and our interactions reflect this. We have a higher emotional vulnerability and are over-thinkers. We have a lot of deep connections, as well as the occasional “Wait, are you furious at me?” text after a minor argument. We’re hopeless romantics who can also be over-thinkers.
So, what should you keep in mind when dating someone who is extremely sensitive? Continue reading!
- Physical touch is more sensitive in some HSPs:We, like most others, are quite sensitive to various sounds; for example, the sound of those white box cushioning makes me shudder. Getting a massage, on the other hand, puts me in a trance-like feeling of contentment.
Some HSPs, according to Aron, are more sensitive to bodily feelings than others.
That has a positive side, such as when modest acts of affection evoke a soothingly high pleasure response. On the other hand, it could lead to a reduction in pain tolerance. Hugs, kisses, and languid Sunday afternoons on the couch piled on top of one another – it’s all to die for. The golden rule is to take things slow and easy at first and to do so with consent.
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2. We pay attention to everything:
HSPs are always scrutinizing others, whether it’s a little flake of pepper trapped between your teeth or minuscule changes in body language. We’ll notice if you’re having a poor day. On the phone, does it sound different? That’s something we’ll probably observe as well.
HSPs are prone to overstimulation since we’re often knee-deep in our own large world of brain activity. I’ll occasionally find myself bursting at the seams with a million interesting things to tell my companion.
Other times, I’m simply not in the mood for discussion and communicate by making semi-intelligible noises. We can become exhausted from all of our meticulous noticings.
3. HSPs require a high level of communication:
Not only are HSPs impacted by people’ moods, but they also change the neurological networks in our brains. In response to both happy and sad photographs of people’s faces, a 2014 study found stronger than typical activations in the parts of our brains that control awareness and empathy.
What I’m trying to convey is that if you keep us guessing by failing to communicate, we’ll notice. Hard. We may come to our own judgments and become anxious about the unknown. Avoid guessing games since communication should never be a game of chess. Let the cat out of the bag already!
4. High Sensitivity Doesn’t Have to Mean High Upkeep:
HSPs tend to pick up more threatening repercussions in their partners’ defects or behaviours as a result of the subtle things they pick up; ponder more; and, if the indicators indicate it, worry about how things are going.
However, this does not always imply a high level of upkeep. My relationships have blossomed as I’ve learnt to recognize and regulate my own emotions. When sensitivity is cultivated and understood, it makes a huge impact. However, not everyone is prepared to put in the time and effort required for this long-term project.
Figuring out your needs as an HSP requires a lot of time and effort. And if you learn to convey your demands, everything will go more smoothly.
5. The ‘Little Things’ Are More Important Than You Think:
You have no idea how loved we feel when we get impromptu kisses on the forehead, “good morning” texts scrawled on little notes, or our favourite dessert when we’ve had a difficult day. In fact, we’ll probably talk about it for days and replay the unique moments in our brains for weeks, savouring every moment.
N.B. HSPs experience unrivalled joy as a result of their relationships, and those with whom we share it are never forgotten. We’ll gladly return the favour by keeping you in mind when we make small decisions throughout the day.
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