5 Great Points That Will Improve Your Communication In Marriage
-By Bisi Adewale
Communication can break or build a relationship. So many marriages are suffering today because of bad communication system between couples .But you can turn your marriage around by making use of these great communication secrets:
“Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how
ye ought to answer every man”. Colossians 4:6.
What the scripture is saying here is that your speech, your tongue, your voice must
Obey these 5 great points which I called the GRACE principle::
1.G – Golden rule: Speak to your spouse the way you want him/her to speak to you.
2.R- Respect: Respect each other as you talk. Eph. 5:33, Colossians 3:8.
3.A – Accommodate: Accommodate your spouse in your words. Avoid “solo
statements” like “My car, “My house”, “My money”, “If not for me”, “I am the
head of this house”, ”My contribution in this house is bigger than yours”, “My
family will hear this”, etc. Rather use pluralistic words “We” “Us”, “Our” avoid
“Me”, “I”, “Mine”, “Myself”, etc.
4.C – Choice of time, tones and words: Talk at the right time and at the right place,
using the right words. Proverbs 15:23, 25:11.
5.E- Encouragement: “As cold waters to a thirsty soul, so is good news from a far
country”. Proverb 25:25.
Always speak to encourage your mate. Motivate him\her with words like “it is
well”, “it is possible”, “we will make it”, “we shall overcome”, “you will not die”,
Learn to speak the truth in love. No corrupt words must come out of your mouth.
Remember your words must be seasoned with SALT. It must be tasty and must
preserve life. It must edify and build your spouse. Your words must enhance
the self -esteem of your mate.
“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is
good to the use of edifying, that it may minister GRACE unto hearers.
Your “TALKING” must involve the following:
Openness– “And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were
Genesis 2:25. Be open to your spouse; no secrecy, no “darkroom”.
Love- Speak in love always. Ephesians 4:15.
Truth- Speak the truth always do not lie.
Speak Good things about your spouse– I value you. You are beautiful, I
love you. You are great, you have brilliant idea.
Speak to edify
Confess positive things.