5 behaviors that parents should NEVER ignore in a child
Some problems of bad behavior are simple and do not always require parental intervention because it is typical of the age, such as egoism with toys, common around 3 to 7 years.
However, there are some that need to be looked at because they say a lot about how your child thinks and feels. Many of them call for immediate intervention.
According to psychoanalyst, many of the unwanted behaviors of children may be being taught in the home. “If parents scream or swear, children tend to copy what they see.” The influence of parents is fundamental in the process of teaching their children better behavior. Remember that the child sees and do. It is also important, beyond example, to give clear rules and limits.
If you find that your child exhibits some of the behaviors listed below, never ignore them. They say a lot about the way your child deals with problems, differences, aggressiveness and selfishness.
This is a way for the child to find and test the very limits that parents give. Ignore the scene and after the child calms down, lower into her height and speak calmly that disapproves of the attitude. It’s also important that adults do not give in to their wishes. Simply state that you dislike behavior and end the conversation.
It is never without reason. Childhood aggression can be a way to catch the attention or repetition of aggression suffered by the child. Aggressive attitudes can be subtle like pushing or taking another child’s toy, but behaviors so require parental intervention.
Both to try to discover the origin of such an attitude, and to prevent such behavior from becoming habit.
Do not use violence with the child (beat, scream) to teach her not to be aggressive. After all, the child has to understand that bullying others is not acceptable – let alone by their parents.
3. Social isolation
Social interaction is one of the behaviors most stimulated by psychology. If your child refuses to interact with peers, to leave home, go to parties, or study with peers, this is a problem that should not be ignored.
In addition to being a sign of depression, it creates behavior that can generate interactive difficulties in the future; Children need interaction. Parents encourage group activities and coexistence with friends. In addition, it is always necessary to dialogue with the child to understand the reasons why he is isolating himself.
When your child is the victim it is easier to realize, but when he is the aggressor, maybe the parents will only know if the school or daycare contact them. It can be devastating for parents to find out that their child is bullying or cyberbullying, however, you have to face the situation and take action.
It is not acceptable to leave “there”. According to a doctor Maria Oliveira, she opined that “in addition to maintaining an open channel of dialogue with the children and interest in what happens in school and the affective life of these young people, it is important that parents follow the virtual life of their children”.
5. Inadequate communication
Interrupting the speech of parents and others or pretending not to listen are behaviors that must be observed and corrected. The child’s feelings must be taken into account.
Those who interrupt their parents’ speech, or those who pretend not to listen, may be feeling unloved, heard, and valued. However, they must still be taught that their behavior is not acceptable. When the child interrupts, put your hand on your shoulder to show that you have heard it or lower yourself at the height of your eyes and say, “Now I am talking to (name of person) I will speak to you as soon as I finish.” It is important not to forget to do this when the conversation is over.
The child who pretends not to listen may be reacting to parents who like to “give a sermon.” Never forget tat when a child feels respected, he or she responds in the same way.
So observe the child’s concentration. The distracted have more difficulty perceiving what is around them.
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