4 Ways You Constantly Abuse Your Wife
Psychological abuse is not always immediately identified within relationships. It depends in part on the permissions that the partners give each other or on the sensitivity of the parties. Not always what is abuse for one couple is also for another.
Check out the 4 ways you can daily abuse her Psychologically.
1. Trivialize the feelings of the partner
Your spouse tries to expose how you feel about abuse and what you get from you is a “you are too sensitive” or “ours, as you exaggerate” rather than listening carefully and pondering your own attitudes you are not just abusing but also manipulating your partner.
2. Make your partner doubt their own sanity
Also called “gaslight”, due to an old movie where a husband makes his wife think that she is crazy to decrease the gas output of the lamps making the lights weaker. When the woman complains that the lights are weak he says he has not noticed any difference, making her doubt his sanity. If, in any way, you induce your partner to doubt your own judgment or sanity, you are abusing it.
3. You reward
According to Dr. Kristin David, the abuser attacks sporadically and intersperses abusive acts with others of kindness leaving the abuser confused and insecure. This creates a vicious cycle of abuse and reward. If you often bully your spouse verbally or with some of the above acts and then create reward mechanisms, you are causing confusion and giving crumbs of love to your spouse.
4. You find reasons that justify it
If after reading what is exposed above, your first thought is “hey, I’m not abusive, I do some of these things because …” does not matter what follows because, you’re trying to justify yourself for abuse. You are abusing your spouse and making him unhappy. Immediately change your behavior and if you feel unable to seek professional help.
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