3 Positive Thoughts to Rebuild Your Life After Divorce
When a marriage ends and divorce becomes a reality, some feelings and emotions can do great damage to self-esteem. It is not uncommon for many people who experience this to experience fear, relief, resentment, insecurity, and guilt.
Divorce is a unique process for every person:
You may not have children, you might. Maybe you did not want to, maybe the decision went away from you. Maybe they both agreed that this is the best solution.
You may feel relief or be heartbroken, or even a little of both.
In any case, nobody marries thinking about separating, this reality represents the rupture of many dreams and plans that were elaborated with the presence of the other.
The end of a marriage is a painful loss, so it is natural that the transition time is confusing and you may even think you will not be able to bear it. But, the truth is that you can overcome this moment and, more than that, build a healthier and happier life.
These three thoughts should be taken as positive affirmations for you who are going through this situation.
1. Acceptance is fundamental
Much of the cure will involve the acceptance of divorce. It is worth differentiating acceptance and agreement; even if you disagree, the revolt will only prolong your suffering. It is essential to put an end to what really has already ended and to focus on the future, acting with dignity, that is, with respect to oneself and the other.
2. Reinventing yourself is not only possible but very likely
Divorce represents a breakdown that involves your way of living. So you can feel halfway through and even question who you are. It is important to keep in mind that the break does not involve who you are, that is, no matter how much your heart is broken, you remain a single, complete person.
Do not doubt your resilience, believe in your own resilience, and look for ways to fit the new reality.
3. New phase, new thoughts, new friends
After the divorce, you may feel weird about married friends. Do not be upset, think that this can make it easier to build the new life. Making new friends can be invigorating and motivating, after all you do not have to keep reminding yourself all the time of your painful feelings.
In fact, avoid anyone who wants to fiddle with this story, like those friends who have a thousand things to tell about what happened or happens to their ex-spouse. The less time you spend on negative conversations and thoughts about your “ex”, the better for you. Remember that the focus is on the future, right?
Accepting, transforming and transcending is the way to overcome the pain of divorce and rebuild one’s life with more experience, maturity, and wisdom. You need all this now.
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