10 Things Good Husband Should Never Do To His Wife
Lately, I’ve been wondering a lot about what makes a good husband. What is it about him that distinguishes him from all those other male specimens?
Does he look a certain way or act a certain way? Is there is anything that can help determine his qualities in time? I’ve come to the conclusion that any good man who respects and cherishes his wife will indeed have certain traits that make him stand out from others.
It’s not all too often that one can find all these characteristics in one person, so if and when you do, hold onto him. These men don’t come around often enough, and this is how you’ll recognize one.
As husbands, sometimes we need encouragement in our quest to step up and be the men God has called us to be. Sometimes we need information, and sometimes we need training. Sometimes we need a mentor—someone who will show us how to be godly men, how to love our wives as Christ loves the church.
And sometimes we need to know what we should stop doing. That’s what this list is about.
- A good husband will never pick apart your looks
“Oh, if only your hair was a little longer.” “If only you lost those couple of extra pounds.” “If you would only wear more makeup.” A good man will never take jabs at your appearance in a way that’s demeaning to you or makes you feel bad about yourself. If he is doing this, he’s purposely attempting to lower your self-worth so you won’t feel confident enough to leave him. It’s his way of trying to control you and it’s emotional abuse.
- Never criticize, demean or humiliate her
You love her, and your wife is the one you made a commitment to and said you would spend your life with forever. If all that is true why would you criticize her? I hear people describe when their husband said something demeaning at a party about their wife with her standing there. Really? So now we have a combination of being critical and demanding. Your goal should be the opposite- to compliment her, make her feel good about herself, and make her feel great about the fact that she has a charming and loving husband.
- Never withhold positive comments
Look I will admit this; I give my wife compliments every day. Yes, that is right; I tell her she is beautiful. I tell her she is funny or cute or smart. I think it is sad when I hear women say, “I just wish he would say he loves me now and then.” The guys always say, “Uh…she knows I love her, I don’t have to tell her.” It doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to hear it! If you think something positive about her, for god’s sake, just say it! Tell her she looks great. Tell her you appreciate how hard she works, or how great of a Mom she is. Tell her she is damn smart. Come on, everybody wants to hear compliments.
- A good husband will never invade your personal space
In any healthy, stable relationship there is absolutely no reason to hide anything.
So, in case you leave your phone at home and leave the house, you know that your man will not be tempted to snoop through it.
An insecure man who believes you are hiding something will not hesitate to take this opportunity, but a good man won’t feel the need to. He trusts you, and there is no reason to invade your privacy.
- A good husband will never make you prove your value to him
A good, kind and decent man knows and appreciates your value. No question about it.
If at any moment you feel like you need to prove your worth to the person you are spending your life with, that is the exact moment when it is time for you to walk away.
Your partner is the person who needs to understand your value and never make you feel lesser than you are. A good man never will.
- A good husband will never discourage you
A sign of a person’s confidence in themselves is how they help to support the ambition of others. A good man will always be willing to help and support those around him and will never be discouraging or insulting.
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- A good man will never make you feel like you are alone in the relationship
Relationships are a partnership. A team. A two-way street. They’re supposed to enhance your life, not complicate it. If you’re with a man who is complacent in life and love, puts no effort into you or the relationship, then it’s time to re-evaluate.
Keep in mind; it’s natural for people to get depressed and unmotivated at times. If this is someone you’ve been with for a long time, I’m certainly not saying kick him to the curb at the first sign of a slump. We all go through them. What I’m referring to here is someone who is simply apathetic and makes you feel like he doesn’t care. You deserve someone who will wake up every morning and pledge to do and be the best they can for you.
- Never stop being a gentleman
When you were dating her, you poured on the romance. You opened doors for her. You sent flowers. You carried the bags when you went shopping. So here is a question why did you stop opening the car door for her and why? If she is your wife now and not your girlfriend doesn’t she deserve more respect? I hear women say all the time, “ I remember when he used to…” please don’t stop.
- Never betray her or be disloyal
OK, you have many teams you are on. You have 1) your wife 2) the kids 3) her family (meaning her parents and siblings) 4) your family 5) friends. So in case, you don’t get it to let me spell it out. She is #1- and you should protect her above all others. That means you don’t let your kid’s smart mouth their Mom. They will show respect to her.
Any relatives that treat her with disrespect- you must always have her side. If your Mom or Dad says anything or does anything disrespectful then you need to handle it. She needs to know you always have her back. Never betraying her also means never betraying any of your vows. Ever.
- Never miss a chance to celebrate you and her
Make her birthday an entire weekend birthday celebration including your wedding anniversary. Let her see all this celebration as a glorious one in your marriage. If you love her, please never overlook a chance to celebrate her.
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